He had changed so much after the night he went out with her. And, he always get upset and denies it. I know he was with other people before we got together and he says she is a stalker but I talked to her and she knew everything about him. He too is interested in me but I do not know why he wants to even take the risk or chance of having an affair with me when he also wants to work things out with his wife in the long run (both are in counselling separately at the moment) & he has told me so. Had one night stands with strangers at truck stops. and he doesnt know why he does it. I need help! one day while he was drunk i copied his password so that day i open his phone and i could not believe of what i saw. Dont HATE the other woman/womenhes your husband who made vows to you..the other women didnt make vows to you. And then I started getting messages and phone calls and all sorts of relevations about her behavior and inappropriate things she said. How do I know shes out of the picture? Im hurt, disrespected, ashamed, embarrassed and my self esteem is so low. Iv nevr given him a reason to think that i am a stay at home mother literally i go nowhere its jus me (im 24) and my 2 year old lil girl. Show a man love, faith, warmth, hard work and he will follow you. We hadnt had sex for three weeks and that night we had sex. Just try to see the funny side. He geta defensive when I ask small questions. Thats just one of the curious findings of a new study on the factors that predict infidelity. Your strength will grow. Currently I was told that my wife went up to the super market to go shopping. Will this ever end? us band works away i n ontario for 28 days n h omw for 2 weeks during all this time he constanltly accusse me of cheating or men coming on to me..I have never done nethin to cheat or give him reason to think I have or would..one day evrything is perfect n th e next terrible n fighting..he tells me somethin is wrong n that its worse then cheating..n doesnt know how to tell me I dont know wat to do or say nemore I have treied it all ne adivce, Ok so i have been with this guy for 3 years now and of course when i got with him i knew that he had a girlfriend and 2 kids with her but at the same he told me he hated her and didnt like her she was only living at his house for the kids and of course he lives with his parents. My gut feeling has never lied or been un true in the past I believe in the 15 years there has been at least 5 please help Im very desperate to have closer Ive never stayed with a cheater but hes slick I could never catch him. Theyll already wonder where their dad is, and a crying mom will only worry them. I have been married for 32yrs my husband cheated on me all that time .then he had sex agirl from there and he had cheated on with younger girl at gas station .he never stop ever he still doing it he said he love me but it hard to believe and trust him ever he go every morning to see the one of them her he wants to have baby with but her. He has his cell phone attached to his side constantly only to turn it off and LOCKED when hes sleeping. An empty condom wrapper fell out of his bag and now i have a yeast infection. Hi I m married in 2009. v have a female child. God Loves You!!!! wouldnt deny it wouldnt admit it. Its almost like he is bipolar *he is a marine and has been over seas* but that doesnt give him the right to drink or treat me like that. We have 3 children and one on the way. Other than to say this: if youre unhappy in your marriage and your husband wont do anything to help improve the relationship, then you need to leave him. I checked the phone a week later and the number still kept on coming up. What I dont get is if hes not married and cares about her why dose he not break off the marriage? He told me he didnt tell her anything but I know he did. I didnt press charges, thinking of his wife and family..U see I kind of know his wife, and went to high school with his sis-in-law. There arent any of the signs of cheating and nothing has changed between us. If cancer cant bring you down, neither will this! Btw. I too found out on that date that my husband of 26 years (33years together) had been cheating on me. And Signs He Does, Why Do Guys Like Anal? Get out from this destructive relationship It will not get better. He even has a profile set up I confronted him and he denies its him he says someone set him up. But he divide to have drink with this girl all night long then he said he and her did nothing except drinking and talking. If he has performance anxiety in the bedroom, he may be more likely to be unfaithful in marriage. Do you have someone to rely on for help and support? I would say yes, and you should have confronted him on that point. Yes, I may get jelous pretty easily about one picture. If I could help you, what would you like me to do? You will! I think mine has also, we have been married 28 years. BIG FLASHING SIGN HERE ChEaTiNg cHeAtInG! So when he went to the strip club 3 weeks after I delivered, I asked him did he have fun. No doubt this incident will be added on there, lol. Once cheater always cheater comes to mind. He Denies it and try to cover it up . But our fear of the unknown holds us back more than anything. I know what he did but he wont ever admit to it so why dont you do us both a huge favor and message me on facebook. If your best friend had the same circumstances going on in her life that you currently are facing, what would you advise her to do? We had to get married and had our son 6 mos. Men who cheat dont walk around with a sign saying Im having an affair they are often good, upstanding, respectable men who are missing something in their marriages. We did fall on hard times. I aint crazy well not for someone lying and cheating heck I have enough problems why would I try to hold on to someone disrespectful to me especially like that? Im not married but I have a baby with my live in partner. Your mother is confused herself, she is also being abused. Ive been with the same man for almost thirty years, and really do hate to break it to other women, but men cheat. u deserve much better. Thats emotional cheating, and its wrong. Good luck & be safe. Why did he do this to me? Im sorry there are so many men out there who seem to be fooling around. so after all of that we worked out our differences and he moved in with me and my parents house everything was going great then bout 3months of everything going great i found out that he was going to see his other baby mama behind my back we fight argue he leaves for a week and then he comes back and everythings good for a month or so then i find out he is still lying to me about talking to his other baby mama and lying to me about doing pills and how much money he has and what he spent it on jus this last week so he kept asking me if i wanted him to leave and i told him to do what he wanted he is a big boy and guess what he packed his stuff and left now he keeps txting me saying he needs me he loves me he dont kno why he left i jus dont kno what to do i have 2 kids and i kno its not good for them to see us fightin i mean only one of my kids is his but still i dont kno what to do ne more. He went to great lengths to make me feel secure. I highly recommend it, especially if you think your husband is lying about cheating. I think you do Because you seem to be willing to wait it out until you return to The States and it all blows over. My gut instinct took over and I went through his email and found disgusting emails from him to other women, lining up dates to come ride his.. what i would advise you to do is to definitely read more about the subject and do your research before you convince yourself that youre just being a paranoind.. You can start by clicking on my nickname in the comment headline (Spouse Cheat) right now, D O N T T A L K T O H I M A B O U T I T ! And just before he gets friends with girl number on, hes unfriends this second girl. Last year June my fiance asked for pictures of a girl he worked with and as for me I consider it cheating. Are your kids all boys? After that we had a long talk about our marriage, we listed the things we liked and didnt like about our marriage, and agreed to change. Never trust anyone 150% its all BS! And, yes, I have no doubt that that time was a scary, perhaps even depressing time for him, but he had every control over every decision he made, his decision to text her while in bed with me, his decision to run to her rescue the moment she said so, the decision to leave family functions to meet with her on weekends at the office etc etc etc Nothing about his actions indicated that he was concerned about how I may feel, that in all that time, I was not important at all, to the point that he would tell me that if I felt the way I did, then I must leave. They dont have childrenHe is still cheating wht a woman named Cecilia for the past 9 years. Amy, thank you for being a voice of encouragement! Im tired of playing the detective almost everyday, im exhausted. So I had HUGE suspicions after that. He said hes faithful to me. Women who are dissatisfied with their relationship are more than twice as likely to cheat; those who feel they are sexually incompatible with their partners are nearly three times as likely. He also stated that he just didnt know how to tell this girl to stop texting. In this situation, you might hear a comment like: "I know that my husband has been cheating with a coworker. You may not need to embark on couples therapy but maybe you and your husband need a little guidance on communication, trust, boundaries, and expectations. You know the type, like a Stepford wife of the movies. Start paying close attention to detail. Recently he started working with a buddy of his to where he is gone all day from morning till night and recently I found two txt nessages to sum girl daying Im home, the wifey is here then a minute lster another one to her saying sorry baby he tried to tell me he didnt mean it like that then he got mad for me accusing him and before I found those messages he was always accusing me of cheating even though I always have my kids with me. I feel for your heart but Im guessing that at times.. its consuming you. I cant even tell if hes lying because hes good at conceiving people. I called him at work and asked is your friend with you at work because a text just went out. I know this sounds crazy after all these years but i keep thinking about it and really dont know if he is telling me the truth or not. I HATE people especially MEN who takes advantage of woman. Is she your best friend and the first person you want too share things with? Thank you in advance for any advice you can give. Im a very gorgeous girl, and i feel he is lucky 2 have me but sometimes i feel he is cheating and lying about it. I dont let him have power over me like he used to. We had one of the worst yelling matches ever! Just disregard our time together, having children, deaths of friends and family, holidays, birthdays. Im left sitting here for 3 or so months now feelin the fool and like Ive lost my mind. I understand your pain and where I dont have any answers for you, I do have my own story. I wont leave her because I know that she has a mental illness. This just so happens to be the EXACT situation I am currently in with my husband! been married for 7years, 1year ago i find out that my husband been cheated on me coz i found out picture of the girl of his bedroom and vedio of the girl taking shower to his own bathroom that time i was 9 months pregnant to my 2ndchild and i was on my own country and he was on overseas work, and he tell it wasnt his girl it was his friend i dont believe because he got all the pictures and video to his hardisc he just keep telling me that he did not cheat on me before that why i was thinking that he cheated on me because he change a lot, he became more angry, he tried to avoid an conversetion to me.. and saying we need to save money bla bla bla.. but he never been like that before.but i want to save my mirrage but i dont know coz sexually we never been making love for 1 and 1/2 year now.. i just dont know what to do, one more he spent more time in the computer than to us, My husband of 4 years said to me yesterday out of the blue that im boring in bed im like an old woman and that i pushed him to other women then quickly changed his answer to your gonna push me toi asked him how can we be intimate if i go to bed EVERY night alone. I cant tell you how you should or should not feel. My husband cheats on me all the time; friends, friends of friends, friends wives/partners, doesnt matter anymore. The problem is that we had moved and my husband had a new job when we got divorced. He has refused sex with me on multiple occasions. I need honesty to move forward, and I read that crack is very addictive. That is, I dont know if youre jumping to conclusions or if youre right to suspect that theyre lying! It sounds like youre very confused and upset I know I would be! ONE DAY HE ASKED IF IT WAS HARD FOR ME TO TALK IN THE OFFICE ND I TOLD HIM YES. Especially after I found out that I was pregnant with our 2nd son. Its destructive. They told me medical proof is not enough proof of the beatings. He most definitely would not be telling you the truth and could be telling you what you want to hear. That instinct being so strong that it gets us into our own set of troubles just as much as your need to have multiple lovers. But its summer again, and he has lots of time on his hands. But the caveat is that there are a lot of variants and factors that are not explained here that might impact whether someone cheats., Still, knowing that sexual personality characteristics and, for women, relationship factors are strong predictors suggests directions for therapeutic interventions, she said. I checked his one email NOTHING, he uses another email for other crap I have no idea what, if i could only get my little hands into that account! When we talk about it he seems completely open and honest no strange body language or voice changes or anything. Please dont. My husband is a loving man he goes to work and comes home everyday on time he dont ever go out with the boys or anything like that. My husband finally admit to me that he had an affair after 37 yrs of marriage. Pls, help me and I need ur advise. We hope for the best, but dont always get it. But i still see know excuse for him to ask her to kiss him. So I want to ask you as a man in this circumstance do you think my husband is lying or tell the truth? Hes made it out like Im the one crazy. I cant be vulnerable with this man. Beyond Affairs. I just try my best and I wont regret after everything is come to end. This past December, there was a woman who came up to us at the bar and introduced herself to me. I have been getting anonimous emails about my husband seeing another woman since last year. It has to start somewhere. I found out he cheated in the past because he has two girls younger than our children. In my belief, at just shy of 50 and with the same guy almost 30 years, if you lose who you are and give up your own dreams and independence, you not only will eventually find your spouse and yourself at opposite ends continually but you will find yourself at 50 wondering why you became one of the coulda, woulda, shoulda clan. The uncertainty about whether he has ever cheated on me is what makes me think I should leave. Any advice? Its hurt my self esteem so so much because its so easy for him to call another woman beautiful but I can barely get him to call me pretty. Really? I didnt trust him he left that work place and I told him if he didnt get me the girls number then I would call his ex boss and disclose everything to him. Thinks we can work on this together and tells me that I can go if I want to. In June of 2010 a new Secretary was hired in his department. So, the first I notice as I log on: pictures of him and a girl on his destop. I have told him that no matter what I want to work this out because I believe we and our kids are worth it and he sill says he innocent.please if you have time I could use some help. I know hell use this fight as an excuse to come and go ad he pleases for a while. However, before we dive into these steps, its important you read the next few sentences carefully. I went back to the bar where we were going to for karaoke.

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